Divorce: A Sad Reality

This is a blog that I never thought I would submit but I think it's time I talk about it. In August of this year, this website will be two years old and I purposely have been careful not to reveal too much about my private life but then somehing happened: the more hits I got, the more people that checked out my site, the more I felt obligated to talk more freely about things that pertain to my life. Well, I also want to reveal a little bit more about myself for my fans around the world who want to know more about me. I was happily married for a few years until I found out that my wife cheated on me for two years. Other than my mother's death, it was the toughest thing I ever had to face. I mean, how does a spouse feel after finding out that thier loved one has not only been unfatithful, but lied to you consistently in the process: well, that's what happened to me. Now I am going through the painful process of filing for divorce while I try and get my career and head together. It is not an easy period for me at all. When I finished recording my CD, Dreamwalk, shortly afterwards, I found out. "Won't Leave You Tomorrow" is about my suspicions. I guess that this is a catharsis for me saying these things in my website and I know that I'm not the only one who is going through this horrible process. I guess that those who hear my music know that I am a hopeless romantic so it's not hard to see how I feel about this betrayal. However, I still believe in love and marriage. I never thought I would but I do. I even joined a support group to help me. What I am really saying is that we are all human beings and when times get a little too rough for us, we should not carry a burden alone. Get help. It is part of the healing process. I felt compelled to write this because as I said before, there are millions of people all over the world who are dealing with this situation on a day-to-day basis and I want whoever is reading this with similar problems to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Talk to someone close to you about it; if that is not possible, join a support group. Believe me: you won't regret it. Also, feel free to write me if you want. I'll be happy to respond. I loved this woman very much but I know that I will be alright and that there is someone out there for me. Hell, there is even room for more songs about this! :) BKT

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